The Introverted Christian

As far back as I can remember, I have always loved people. Or at least, the “idea” of people. This may seem horrific to some of my more extroverted friends, but I could happily go sit in the middle of the Mall of America for hours, by myself, contentedly watching strangers pass by me with their families. There is a certain beauty in how people interact with each other, and I consider it a great honor to see it unfold. I just don’t want to be a part of it.

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My inclination towards introversion, coupled with depression and social anxiety, makes pushing into community, in any capacity, a very real struggle for me. In a culture that is driven by this weird dichotomy of seeming connected to everyone but also being driven forward by a fierce independence makes what is already an incredibly hard struggle even murkier. Where do we, as Christians, draw the line between what feels right and good about our social interactions and what might feel uncomfortable? How do we balance, as introverts, our real and very necessary need for solitude with the need for community?

To make this less confusing, let’s look at our Truth first. Where does the Bible say we should land on this scale? The Apostle Paul, in his first letter to the Corinthians, gives us a beautiful image of who we are in the context of a body of believers. Let’s read through 1 Corinthians 12:12-13, 21-27.

[12] For just as the body is one and has many members, and all the members of the body, though many, are one body, so it is with Christ. [13] For in one Spirit we were all baptized into one body—Jews or Greeks, slaves or free—and all were made to drink of one Spirit…

[21] The eye cannot say to the hand, “I have no need of you,” nor again the head to the feet, “I have no need of you.” [22] On the contrary, the parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, [23] and on those parts of the body that we think less honorable we bestow the greater honor, and our unpresentable parts are treated with greater modesty, [24] which our more presentable parts do not require. But God has so composed the body, giving greater honor to the part that lacked it, [25] that there may be no division in the body, but that the members may have the same care for one another. [26] If one member suffers, all suffer together; if one member is honored, all rejoice together.

[27] Now you are the body of Christ and individually members of it.

Regardless of how we feel, Paul is saying that we are part of a body. And, as it goes in our own bodies, we not only play a vital role in the growth of the church, but we are also very much dependent on the other parts of the body for our own growth. The beauty of Christ’s body, the church, is that, though we may all be very different (by race, spiritual giftings, political standings, spiritual maturity, etc), we are one body, drinking from the same cup.

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For a long time, I did not think of church as a priority. I fell into the temptation of spreading my introverted inclinations over and on top of my need for Christian fellowship. I had Jesus, and that was enough. Despite my isolated efforts, however, my faith waned and I slowly grew less dependent on Christ as my Savior. I had no one to check my spiritual blind spots, and, not surprisingly, my reflex tended to dismiss and excuse my own sins. As I grew more independent in life, I grew more independent in my faith. As Paul puts it here, I was an eye, thinking that what it could see was all there was. I was an eye who forgot that the things that she saw would be so much richer if I had the sense of touch the fingers provided, or the sense of smell the nose provided, or the gift of hearing the ears provided. Instead, I accepted this incomplete picture as the whole, and suffered greatly for it.

When my family moved to Minneapolis and eventually found our church almost three years ago, I went through a bit of a culture shock, to say the least. I was suddenly surrounded by people who wanted, and some who just expected, to be a part of our lives. It was jarring and uncomfortable, and yet we kept coming back. We felt more at home, sitting there in the back pew, casting our eyes down at the floor during that horrific “WHY DON’T YOU SAY HI TO YOUR NEIGHBOR” time, than we had anywhere else. Something about the very real presence of the heartbeat of community drew us in, despite our knee-jerk reflex to pull our hands away. I understand now that the heartbeat that drew us in was the undeniable life-giving push and pull of the gospel that is repeated every Sunday. The heartbeat of Christ’s death and resurrection is the steady rhythm that calls to our very bones and reminds them whose and what they are. As Paul says in verse 27, “Now you are the body of Christ.” Through God’s great mercy, we are enveloped in the safety of Christ’s body. And it’s his heartbeat, his work, that pushes life into every limb.

With this great truth, however, comes another. As Paul says in Romans 12:1, “I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship.” As Christ’s body was sacrificed for the good of all, we must be ready and willing to offer our lives as a living sacrifice for God’s great glory. I do not deny that pushing into community feels sacrificial at times. I often come home from our gatherings and collapse on the couch, weary from head to toe from social aspect of it. I still seek times and places of solitude to recharge. And yet, I have never experienced the growth, in both faith and maturity, that has come from God working through the church body. I have come to know God more deeply than I could have ever hoped to on my own. The picture would have never been more than that, a picture, a single capture, instead of a living, breathing, redeeming broken-but-whole body that IS Jesus in the Church. I experience God’s truth, God’s love, God’s forgiveness, and God’s mercy through the arms and words of the people that are in this body with me. It is, surely, a wonderful, tiring, blessed thing to behold.

So I encourage you, if you are unsure about the role of community, or perhaps very sure about its role (which is not in your life, thank-you-very-much), to push into what God says about you in his Word. Acknowledge that He who created you knows who you are, and what you need, and has provided that for you. And I can say from experience, the church is a great place to start.


A God Who Speaks to Us

We (Christians) worship and serve a God who has spoken to us. He isn’t a god who lords over the earth, distant from mankind, keeping us guessing as to who he is, what he values, or how he reigns. Instead, we serve a personal God who has spoken to us in several ways; especially through the Bible.

The Bible is important to me (and us) for so many reasons. God’s word encourages us in our faiths and trials, convicts us in our sins, directs us in our questions, inclines us further to Christ, and (maybe most importantly) tells us the gospel: how salvation is found for sinners in Christ alone. The Bible tells us God’s character and how, in light of that, we should live as believers. The Bible is critical because the gospel is critical; it’s our hope and ultimate truth.


Practically, learning about God’s revelation to us through the Bible is helpful in several ways. It reinforces my need to be in the Bible each day. Each day I need to be reminded of the gospel, each day I need to be saved from my sins. As I learn more about the Bible (how to read it, what questions to ask, the main points to see), I find myself more equipped and also more encouraged in the time I spend reading it. The more I learn regarding how to read the Bible, the more captivating and relevant it becomes.


God wrote the Bible as one big story, not a series of fragmented, unrelated ones. When we read the Old Testament in light of the gospel; not only does the Old Testament make more sense, it also is all the more encouraging to see the ways God clearly pointed to Jesus thousands of years before Jesus walked the earth. Jesus himself explained that the Old Testament is actually about himself (Luke 24:17).

So through the lens of Jesus and the good news of his salvation, we can see the biblical storyline as a single 11 part story running from Genesis to Revelation:

Our identity (Genesis 1-2): Creation

Our problem (Genesis 3): The Fall

His solution promised (Genesis 4-50): Abraham

His solution pictured (Exodus): The Exodus

His solution pointed to (Exodus-Deuteronomy): Sinai/Law

His solution prefigured (Joshua-2 Chronicles): Kings, the Temple

His solution predicted (Ezra-Malachi): Exile and Prophecy

His solution personified (the gospels): The Coming of Jesus

His solution purchased (told in the gospels, explained in Romans-Revelation):  The Cross

His hope proclaimed (told in the gospels and Acts): The Resurrection and Pentecost

His and our return (Revelation): Eternity in the New Heaven and Earth (*adapted from Porterbrook’s Bible in MIssional Perspective [2015])

Finally, the Bible is final; God is not adding to it still. I’ve noticed a growing movement, especially in the realm of Christian women’s ministry, in which women claim God has spoken/is speaking to them. While this phrase can mean a ton of different things, it is helpful to remember that God has primarily spoken to us by his word (the Bible) and he doesn’t “speak” things to anyone that contradict the Bible. Additionally, we should always compare someone’s “revelation” to the Word of God because his word carries authority. The finality of God’s word was especially important to me years ago when I was exploring Mormonism, a religion that has added several documents in the past 200 years that they claim equal the Bible in importance, authority, accuracy, and divine authorship. To see the Bible warn against adding to God’s word helps us distinguish false religions in a very clear way.


In conclusion, the Bible is critical in the life of a believer and in the Church. We need it to know the heart of God and to know the gospel. Like we read in 2 Timothy, the Bible is literally God’s words and it is good “for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness” (2 Tim. 3:16). Praise God that he loves us and would give us so great a gift.



Resources for teaching kids about Jesus

Parenthood is an incredibly high calling. We cannot assume the faith of our children just because they're a part of a believing family. Yet for many parents, teaching our kids about Jesus and his gospel can be daunting. So we wanted to share resources we've found helpful and gospel-centered for helping to teach our kids about Jesus, the Bible, theology, and the gospel. 

In order to teach our kids about Jesus, we need to know and love him ourself! So we need to be in the Word, hearing our pastors' preaching, and in Christian community that points us to Jesus. For our family, having these resources scattered throughout the main rooms in our house makes it really easy to both spontaneously and intentionally talk about Jesus throughout the day. Don't be intimidated by the length of this list, I intentionally made it extensive because different resources will fit with different families, children, ages, etc. Just start with a few resources that will work for the life-stage of your family. A great first step is an age-appropriate Bible for your kids. With all that being said, here are some resources we love!

Storybook Bibles

The Garden of Eden from  The Biggest Story.

The Garden of Eden from The Biggest Story.

Kids Books

  • The Ology by Marty Machowski - teaches theology (who God is and how we relate to him)

  • First Bible Basics: A Counting Primer by Danielle Hitchen

  • The Biggest Story ABCs by Kevin DeYoung

  • The Garden, The Curtain, and the Cross by Alison Mitchell

  • The One O’clock Miracle by Alison Mitchell

  • The Storm that Stopped by Alison Mitchell

  • God’s Very Good Idea by Trillia Newbell

Adult Books

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  • Give them Grace by Elyse Fitzpatrick*

  • Show them Jesus by Jack Klumpenhower

  • Gospel-powered Parenting by William P Farley

  • Parenting: 14 Gospel Principles That Can Radically Change Your Family by Paul David Tripp


  • The Ology - songs that teach theology. It goes along with the book with the same title.

  • Seeds Family Worship - for scripture memory

  • The Jesus Storybook Bible Audio

  • The Biggest Story Audio

  • The Rizers - for scripture memory


  • Buck Denver asks…What’s In the Bible? - these are so fun! They are by Phil Vischer who also made Veggie Tales. They have the same silliness and memorable songs as Veggie Tales but they are really gospel-centered. The series goes through the whole Bible and shows how each part of the Bible fits into the overarching storyline of scripture and also how each part points to Jesus.

  • Theo

  • Owlegories

  • The Biggest Story (animated)


  • Bible App for Kids by Life.Church - It's free! It's a kids Bible app that reads the story to the kids with interactive, animated pictures. It's the kid version of the youversion adult Bible app.


  • Risen Motherhood - They have a blog, a podcast, a website, and they post on social media. They have been really encouraging to me because they point to the good news of Jesus in the midst of mothering. Their website lists a even more resources on this topic and motherhood in general.

  • Jesus is Better: Bible Stories with Gospel Joy - This podcast is working its way through the Old Testament by teaching through passages and explaining how Jesus is the better Moses, Joshua, Judge, King, etc.


Hopefully these resources give help and support to those who're looking for it, especially for parents of elementary age children and younger. On top of actual resources, your care and parenting are priceless. Demonstrate an importance of gathering regularly with the church in big and small ways. Be present, ask your children questions, and help them see the gospel demonstrated in real life (creation, relationship, family, etc.). Pray with your kids, repent in front of them when you're wrong, remind them of their identities in Christ and need for him, and share with them what you are learning. 

“There is nothing more important to consistent, faithful, patient, loving, and effective parenting than to understand what God has given you in the grace of his Son, the Lord Jesus Christ.” 
― Paul David Tripp, Parenting: 14 Gospel Principles That Can Radically Change Your Family

*Sold at Hiawatha Church near the 42nd street entrance.